I Secretly Daydreamed About Marrying Someone Else: The Confessions of a Caregiver Husband

For more than 15 years, chronic illness, anxiety, depression, and relentless sleep deprivation have tested Andrew and Kristen Van Noy’s marriage, faith, and ability to keep going. For the first time, the hosts of Like a Diamond step into the guest chairs to share their own story—including the hidden toll of caregiving, resentment and guilt, unanswered prayers, and the moments when their marriage felt like it might not survive. This isn’t a story told from the other side. Andrew and Kristen are still in the fire, learning that love doesn’t always mean fixing the person who is hurting—and that hope doesn’t have to wait for healing. Their story is a raw reminder of the power of connection, compassion, and choosing to keep going when the answers still haven’t come.